One of my fantastic co-workers adopted the phrase "We can do hard things" into her every day classroom language.
I love it.
I love that when she's giving directions she may end with, "Will it be hard? Yes. But we can do hard things."
I love that when a child tells me a book is too hard all I have to say is, "We can do hard things".
I love when children seem confused we can say, "Keep thinking, I know this isn't easy, but we can do hard things"
I love working with a struggling child and saying, "I know this is hard for you. But we can do hard things"
I love that it's "We can" and not "You can" because it reminds the child that we're in this together- we're all working hard. In fact, it makes hard work an expectation.
There is something so freeing about letting go of the expectation that everything is going to be easy, and that things that are not easy are OK.
And somehow, after a week or so of using the phrase in the classroom it's crept into my own psyche. I find myself thinking, "We can do hard things" when I'm feeling overwhelmed with whatever task I have in front of me. And when trying to decide between two options- "We can do hard things" pops into my head and before I know it I've chosen the harder option.
try it as your mantra for just one day and see what happens...