In a moment of procrastinating I was playing around with the comment page and I realized that I have tons of unpublished comments from as far back as 2013. Some were spam, but others were meaningful, thoughtful comments that I'd never read before. I didn't mean to not publish any of your comments- for whatever reason I never saw them.
If you commented and never saw it appear on the site please don't take it personally- I'll try to be better about checking the actual blog for comments waiting moderation instead of just relying on my email notifications.
Thank you for sharing all your thoughtful insights with me!